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Happy 2nd Anniversary, Dearest Husband

16 May

I call my parents Mama and Papa. My husband call his parents Ibu and Bapak. My cousins call their parents Bunda and Ayah. My other cousins call their parents Umi and Abi.

I come from a big family who still stick together even after the elders were already passed away. And all of those great parents mentioned above are still alive. To avoid confusion, husband and I don’t want to be called the same with those great alive parents. 

What’s left for my husband and I is to be called as Mami and Papi by our kidMy mom called their parents Mami and Papi. My mom’s Mami and Papi were already passed away years ago. They are burried in the same tombstone, as husband and wife. 

My late grandpa and grandma’s tombstone

The truth is, it has been a blessed that I married to a family man. Husband really helps alot after Baby O was born. He does the house chorus if needed, takes care of Baby O when I’m busy, voluntarily spends time and plays with Baby O, most of the time he even cooks for me.

Husband doesn’t smoke, doesn’t do boy’s night out, doesn’t have any 2nd wife or 2nd girl friend that mommy has to compete with (very important! 😂). What can I ask more?

Hopefully, Mami Ori and Papi Ori will always be together until death do us apart, like my mom’s Mami and Papi. Aamiin 🙏🏻. Happy 2nd anniversary, Papi Ori 😘. Love you, always ❤️

Our 2nd anniversary dinner in Shaburi, Grand Indonesia


The Beauty of Commuting

1 Sep

Commuting between work and home means sacrificing several hours per day in our life being on the street.

It’s daily routine when husband and I see people who are in hurry to arrive home soon. They run on the street, they cut lines, they elbow others just to get into the public transport, just to be home as soon possible.

Inside Jakarta Commuter Line

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Husband and I already realized it years ago back when we’re still dating. Our judgement that day, they did everything because they commuted alone, because they couldn’t wait to meet their love ones at home. Read here for more detail.

So blessed that husband and I were and are commuting together, both in dating time and marriage time. The life on the street became our quality time together, when not dealing with work, when not taking care of Baby O. It doesn’t mean that we don’t want to spent more time with Baby O, we definitely want to. To look on the positive side, it’s a blessing in disguise for married couple. Just like people said, it’s the quality time that matters, not the quantity. 

Daily 4 hours of Jakarta traffic jam? Beat me

Modern Marriage Life

28 May

Baby Blues by Rick Kirkman and Jerry Scott is one of comic strips that I read alot. It tells us about daily life of working husband Darryl and house wife Wanda while having 3 kids in the family; daughter Zoe, son Hammie, and daughter Wren. It has been published since 1995 up until this day.

I remember reading this one story where on one night, Darryl decided to help Wanda with household duty which made Wanda hugged and smooched Darryl. Yes, any wife will feel really thankful when the husband helped her with household duty. Even if it’s only a one time help. Imagine if the husband regularly helped the wife, how lucky the wife may feel.

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I know exactly how blessed it feels, because that’s what happened with me and husband. Husband helped me alot with cooking. In fact, he’s the main cook in our little family. Partly because I don’t know how to cook, yet. Other part because I don’t have the time to cook, yet. Baby O still hasn’t found rhytm in his daily schedule.

It’s more like a shared duty actually. When husband cooks, I accompany Baby O. When I do the rest of household duties (wash & clothes, wash & dry dishes, clean house, etc), he accompanies Baby O. When he works, I’m the one who accompany Baby O. During my maternity leave, there are only the 3 us at home. But when husband and I work, my mom will accompanies Baby O. Maybe this is one form of modern marriage life.

Other modern marriage life might be in the form of long distance marriage. Where the husband works in another city while wife and kids stay at home. Or where the husband gets a scholarship abroad but couldn’t bring along the family, so the wife and kids stay at home. Or where the wife works outside the country while husband works in the country.

Whichever form the marriage is, it should be based on trust to make it last long. The husband should trust the wife and should be trusted by the wife, and vice versa. They might be not always together all day long, or week long, but they know they have each other in their heart. That way, they can peacefully do what they have to do (work, study, etc) without worrying or be hassled by the partner.

Husband and I have been together since mid of 2011 before marrying in May 2015. It’s 4 years of dating and 1 year of marriage, yet we still need to learn many things about relationship. There’s still 50 more years to go, that’s the goal. 🙂

Love you always, beb. :*