Alpha, Beta, Cupid

I first acknowledged the term of Alpha Male when I read Twilight Saga *Yes, I read it. So what?*. The term strucked me when I had divine conversation with friends. A friend said this other friend of us is an Alpha Female, which is the reason why it’s hard for him not to be not attracted to her *Let’s confirm the truth of the quote to himself *.

As far as Wikipedia told me, Alpha Male *originally refers to animals* is term to describe a very dominant male, usually over-confident, and very assured of himself. Every Alpha Male has his female, the Alpha Male’s female.

But according to this Alpha Female friend of mine, let’s assume she’s a true one, her partner (read: husband) is the true Alpha Male. Could Alpha Male mate with Alpha Female? Still based on Wikipedia, yes it could. Though it’s rarely happen in the nature.

As for me, I think it’s less likely to be happened. Let’s borrow Twilight Saga definition, that Alpha Male means leader (of the wolves pack). Can two leaders lead the same boat? Go figure.

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Two or more dominant persons could not be in the same group, unless each one of them knows their role, and clearly understand when is the time they need to be dominant, when is the time they need to selfless, if only they still want to be together. When one of them already tried being selfless and the other(s) still can’t/don’t want to do the same, no wonder the ego of this one person becomes interrupted.

Only time can answer what will happen next. Or, could you?

Tags: alpha, female, leader, male, mate, twilight saga, wolves

What Your First Job Is?

Mine is a researcher. Correction, my current job. Whether there would be a second job for me or not, let’s not decide it at the moment. Because I still need to learn alot from it, as I just have 8 months experience by the end of this month.

I hope not white coat, experiment tube, and or grey hair that came in your mind when I said “my first job is a researcher”, because not all researcher works in a lab. Let’s not figure me as female Albert Einstein, shall we?

I never wished nor figured myself as a reseacher back then. Not only because I’m more an outdoor person, but also because I didn’t know that indoor job could be interesting. As a researcher to be specific. As a market researcher to be precise.

Don’t blame any of you if you don’t know what a market researcher is, moreover if you don’t know what we do. Because based on the Market Researcher Community in Indonesia, the demand of people to be working in this industry is high. While there are only a few people who are currently working in this side of industry, as a client servicing, not as the client itself.

Oops, probably I’ve lost you along the way. I can’t give you clear explanation what a market researcher is. All I can say that:

Market researcher works to know what the market’s desire, opinion, feedback about producer’s product (upcoming and or existing) and its advertising, if any. Market researcher also works to know market’s behaviour when using any product.

Scary? Not really. We couldn’t say we like something or not when we haven’t tried it by ourself, better go figure. I didn’t know what a market researcher before, and I didn’t say “No” when someone offered me the job. Turns out, I like it, it interests me, and I want to learn something from it.

What is your first job anyway?

Tags: career, company, job, market, research, researcher

Career Jumper: A Runner or A Brave One?

What is your employment status at the moment? Haven’t work yet and still in school, jobseeker, working on first job, or already have years of work experience? A few people I know would answer, “I’m on my xx-ieth jobs, with less than a year of experience each”. Career-jumper, if I might call it.

For you who haven’t work yet because still in school, a little advise from me. Take your time there, learn alot, absorb much, no need to hurry to earn money, especially when your parents are still able to pay for your tuition. Because early maturity is never good, and working world isn’t for those who aren’t ready.

For you who already in the stage of years of work experience, bless you. What you sow, is what you rip. If you have good skills and loyal to the company, I bet you’re in good shape at the moment. Wish I could be there soon. See you on top!

For you who are jobseekers and or already get the first job like me, be careful. The first job we have will define our career path if we want to stay in the same working industry. If after some time we want to have a career in different working industry more over different function to be work as, the first job experience wouldn’t be counted.

As a human, that’s not a waste, because I’m sure we learn alot (if not something) from it. But as an employee, we’ve wasted year(s) of work experience, because the time we’ve spent there wouldn’t be counted in the new place, please do correct me if I’m wrong.

That’s why we better not ends up as a career-jumper like a friend of mine. Be careful in choosing the first job, no need to accept whatever any company offers us. Make sure of ourself, what do we want to be, what do we want to do in the future.

And once we’re in it, learn alot, absorb much. Whatever difficulties we have, whatever disappoinments we face, we need to believe in ourself that we didn’t make the wrong choice and we can survive from it. We need to hang on a little longer, before we make another decision that could shape our future. That is the time when we need to have good preparation, better to think than blink in quick decision.

Some say, career-jumpers are those who run away from what their present. Those who aren’t grateful for what they already have at the moment. Others say, career-jumpers are those who are brave enough to admit that they made the wrong decision. And or those who are brave enough to leave their comfort zone and look for better opportunity at the new place.

Which one do you believe in?

Tags: career, career jumper, job, work

Social Networking: How Does It Affect My Life?

This blog entry was intended to be posted for TBI Social Networking 2011 writing contest. But since I couldn’t find the link on its facebook and web page, hence this entry is posted to show someone out there the extra mile. Hope it’s okay, beb.

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At this point of time, I divide my life into pre-boyfriend and post-boyfriend eras. Pre-boyfriend era ended on July this year when I was officially dating my current boyfriend. Post-boyfriend era, with many fights, tears, smiles, loves, and struggles, is still continue until now. Let’s hope there will be happy ending for us both, amen. <3

The fights and struggles were merely because boyfriend and I are basically different types of person. Cliche, I know, but it’s true. One of the difference is I’m a spare-time-blogger (micro or a complete one), somehow by default I engage with social media alot. Boyfriend in the other hand is someone who, I’m borrowing his word, lives in the real life, unlike me who’s trapped in the cyber world alot.

Pre-boyfriend era was me and my gadgets all the time. Though I socially hanged out and had fun with friends, my hand will never be emptied from my handphone and or my laptop. My twitter account never fall to be updated once in an hour, if not every minutes, even when I was attending a class in college. I knew my friends’ condition by reading through their tweets, not by personally contacting them or so. I even knew alot about celebtwit’s circle of life, the ones that I never met of. More like a stalker, yes I’m aware of that.

Post-boyfriend era means me and boyfriend only, like ALL the time. Less time to update my status on twitter even to hold my handphone more than 5 minutes. Most of the time, when I’m with him, my handphone is safely placed in my bag. How does it feel to have a smartphone in your bag but not be able to use it because of some restriction which is not related to phone credit?

At first, it felt weird to not hold my handphone at my palm anywhere I go. But by the time being, the truth is, I miss nothing. With less time to play with my handphone thus less time to be enganged on twitter, I actually more enganged with my surroundings. At least, I was becoming more aware with people who are physically around me, like people on the side road, those in the same public transportation with me, and the like.

In pre-boyfriend era, in every chance I had, I’ll look at my handphone’s screen the most, just to read people that I follow’s recent tweets, even when I was in the public transportation. I couldn’t hear when the street musicians sang because it just consumed my attention. I wouldn’t noticed if there’s anything happened outside the window (read: in the real world).

In post-boyfriend era, I learned that even a slightest attention to those street musicians, even if we didn’t give them any money, is meaningful for them. Just smile politely, and they’ll smile back at us. Which is meaningful for me too, because I looked and heard more than something I seen on mobile phone screen. There’s a feeling I couldn’t explain everytime I see stranger’s sincere smile.

The one thing that holding me back to never lost contact with twitter is the fact that I got my current job because of it, I owe it THAT much. I read a tweet about job opening in my current company through someone’s timeline. I applied, tested, and accepted to work here until present time.

Social media costed me time I should’ve spent more wisely in the past, but it paid back by giving me a job to work for at the moment. So what does it affect me? You decide.

Tags: facebook, media, network, relationship, smartphone, social, twitter